Finding the man I want to be, alone. Pack_19 part3

[SteveLW]

hi all,

Let's see if this time I get it right. I am in a very emotional moment now and very lost regarding what to do. I heard W was unfaithful but it is a topic I cannot talk to her about, in the meantime she keeps being resentful towards me. At some point I need to decide what to do next, based on my principles and any hopes I can still hold for my M.

However, it is not a good time to take action and make a decision. For 15 days. I can just do nothing, let days go by and work on calming down and keep GAL and making me the best I can be. Do you think this path will help me or based on the amount of time we have been S do you see little if not any hope at all?

It is true I have been THE most unteachable person in this board, I guess this is why I have hope if I can do what the members of the forum advice, at least I will be able to sit down and enjoy life aside of what W does or doesn't do.

Thank you all for your honesty and help. ((hugs)) Pack

Fall back on DBing principles.

- Do not start R talks. (This includes about her infidelity)
- GAL (Those that struggle the most do GAL the worst)
- Continue to work on self-improvements. (Are you in IC? What books are you reading? How are you trying to become the best Pack_19 possible?)
- Detach! You need to be at a place where hearing about her infidelity has no impact on you at all. The fact that it has impacted you means you are still overly attached.
- Doing nothing IS doing something. (Do not give into the illusion of action.)

Pack, when you struggle the most, turn back to the DB principles. I am not going to lie, as time goes on the hope continues to dwindle. I am of the belief that someone can always change as long as they are still alive. But you need to be moving on with your life.