We had a talk. He says he needs to focus on his own life and issues right now, that this is bad timing and that he feels he should put an end to all contact but right now it might make him feel worse, in a callous sense.
I was going to suggest to stop MC and any relationship talks etc. until the OW issue was addressed. Things will not and cannot get better until she is out of the picture and he has grieved their relationship. Go back to focusing on yourself and really think about how you want to live the second half of your life. If he wants a relationship in the future you will know. If he does not you will still feel like your in limbo and confused.
