I don't think you need to give up but crystal clear boundaries are in order.
This seems hard right now. He cares for her, she has cancer, he will want to know how she is, and will presumably want to keep a track of her situation because he cares for her.
Where do I go with this? Not going NC is a deal breaker.
Originally Posted by LH19
OW is still on his mind and in his heart and he can't reconnect with you until that's not the case anymore.
He always, always tells me this is nothing to do with feelings for her. That he was out of love with me long before she came along. And that our connection has always been out of sync. That's his truth. Of course she woke up feelings in him (and they had an amazing connection).
M:49 H:49 T:20 M:18 D:16 D:14
EA: Feb 2019-May 2020 Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020 H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020 EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020 Recon #2: since Nov 2020
