[may22]

Scout, what are your misgivings about his parenting? Some of the things you've shared about how your XH treated you were really really horrible to read. I'm remembering one about a wedding.

I agree with kml that likely S2 was super annoying and asking for mommy the whole time... and does your X have the emotional capacity to swallow that and be a dad? Or will he take out the feelings of rejection and frustration on his kid, because he can?

All those questions S2 asked you... can you imagine what your XH's response would be to them? I'm thinking I'd be very surprised if they were like yours. And {b]I'm[/b] still traumatized thinking about him in the car on the way home listening to you and X fight on the phone over his sort-of kidnapping. The statement about being scared his dad is going to take him away worries me.

I agree with Gerda. keep really good records of all of this. Share it with your IC and see if she/he thinks some therapy might be a good idea for S2. it doesn't hurt anything or mean anything to keep records, but could be important in the future-- not just for custody, but in supporting S2 through this as well.