I found a way around my own boundary. I think I told myself If she was wearing her ring, saying ILY, asking about recon then OM must be out of the picture. However this was never confirmed. There was never a commitment to recon and no discussion surrounding the things that have happened.
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So now you know. Get up. Brush yourself off Indy. Get back on NC wagon. Can you do that? You don't need to respond to her ILY texts... just wait... see if she does what you asked. Stop trying to control the outcome.
Originally Posted by Indy470
Part of me didn't push because I genuinely felt for her in the moment. She sounded so upset and I didn't want to force it on her in that moment. I really do love this woman and despite everything I don't want to see her hurt. I just care about her alot but I guess the hard discussion are the ones that need to be had.
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I'm gonna call BS on this. Loving someone unconditionally is NOT stepping in to protect your w's hurt... that she caused btw. That's Co-Dependency. Giving her the opportunity to experience her life with her own consequences (ie: Not having you as long as she is with OM) would be loving.
Also - what about loving yourself? Did you not love yourself enough to ask the question that is so very important to you?
Can't love others until you love yourself first Indy.
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