This is huge. For 16 months I have chosen to keep them in the dark. Quarantine rules have made it easy for us to avoid them and he chose to spend Christmas and a family birthday as a “normal” routine event.
I feel that his behavior on social media may cause someone I care about to see him and I don’t want them to worry about me.
I am thinking of texting and just telling the facts:
H said he doesn’t want to be married, I believe this is MLC and at this time I would like to work it through. I am willing to wait a while. This has not been a short situation, it has been going on over a year. I do not want to speak about it. I will let you know when I do. Please do not confront him.
I know my family loves me and H and I know this will upset them, I just am not prepared to speak about it. (Look, it took me this long just to tell the accountant!) I know they will be concerned, but I am the type of person that can not handle people being sad, especially for me.
Anyway, if you have any comments please let me know.
