Good Morning Gerda

How is the fall in your locale? Are the leaves turning to yellows and orange?

Here the first tastes of fall are upon us. The tops of tress are becoming a palette of golden yellows, burnt oranges, and fiery reds. The purple rain birch, S23’s birth tree, turns dark purple; the darkened hue slowly dripping downward from treetop to ground level.

The grass has thankfully slowed its growth. With all the rain this year, I’ve put a lot of miles on cutting it.


An appraisal on the house is some progress. Hopefully, this will be entered as the true value, instead of H’s made up fantasy exaggeration.

Originally Posted by Gerda
I do not understand my rights as far as saying no to all this and forcing a trial. I do not want a trial but this is just a never-ending nightmare and we should admit we didn't resolve and must to trial over everything. I also got a very inequitable distribution and only agreed to it because there was an end point and the chance for me to pay him his share over a couple years (at least in my mind, since it wasn't specified in the order). If we are just ignoring the order and making a new arrangement, I feel like I should appeal and try to get this before another judge, or insist on no further conferences and prepare for trial.

Does anyone 'round here know about that? E.g., am I allowed to say that if we don't stick to the order that resolved the property then everything is off the table, nothing is resolved, and it's time for trial?

I am sorry you are finding the court/legal system so frustrating. H and his lawyer are diverting and blocking this process quite often.

The legal arena has its own rules and guidelines. From my experiences, and questions of my lawyer during my divorce, the judge’s rulings are law. One of course can appeal, however at some point it will be, and is settled. Remaining out of the courtroom is best, however an amicable partner is required for that.

Navigating that arena is foreign to me. Lawyers study and practice many years to be proficient in it. Yes, one can represent themselves, much easier when facing a less irrational adversary. And the importance of the case needs to be considered; a traffic ticket vs a messy divorce, much different stakes involved.

What you ask, seems reasonable. You are reasonable. The legal arena, is different. Justice, fairness, rights, law, etc., there is a lot to balance and find resolution within.

Now, if you wanted to know how and why an alternating current leads or lags an applied voltage as it flows through an impedance, and how that can be mathematically represented with trigonometric equations and imaginary numbers, I’m your guy. There may even be one or two other things I know about. Legal system ain’t one of those; I hired a lawyer.

In response to you question, and remember my layman’s knowledge base, one doesn’t say or tell the judge what to do. You make a motion for the judge to consider the merits of said proposal, they will assess based upon all those previously mentioned principles, and rule one way or the other. I have no real idea of the likely outcome of such a proposal, however I think/feel your judge would dismiss it.

Please seek, even better hire, a lawyer for advice and guidance. Your situation is moving, albeit slowly. Perhaps the timing is right for you to get representation. I don’t want to see you run over and unfairly saddled with any of H’s enormous lawyer bill. (Wow, that guy has sure racked up one huge bill)

I do support and care about you. Sorry I cannot be better help.

D


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Be better, not bitter.
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