I think i need some wise words from you people on how bot to fall apart, and i know its just my emotions.
Emotions are good teachers. Your anger is teaching you something. Don't try to rush over it. Feel it. It Doesn't have to turn into actions.
Originally Posted by Gigi123
I'm struggling with 180 here as i have obv neglected some parts of our marriage and didnt always act the right way, perhaps restricting his impulsive behaviours and so on.
No Person on this planet ALWAYS acts the right ways. What kind of impulsive behaviors were you restricting? What ways did you neglect the marriage?
Originally Posted by Gigi123
Basically by doing what in soing which is not initiating contact and basically living my life like He doesn't exist, im doing more of the same in his eyes.
It sounds to me like you are keeping emotionally distant from him (which makes sense because he's not emotionally safe at the moment). That doesn't sound more like the same - it sounds like self care and a boundary.
I've also seen vets here say to put boundaries on his communication? Maybe around his visits too? Would those be 180s for you?
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Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
