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[Taz]

RC,

Yes I have been working on me. My main problem according to the W was my negativity and that I complained about everything. I don’t do that any more. Actually when I ask others if they see me this way they laugh but I know I did this around her more than I should have.

When I met with the wife she was very quiet and didn’t lead the conversation. So I asked her about her work and new supervisor she noted a few items she didn’t like about her and I just listened and validated. She also was distraught that our sons don’t communicate with her so I just listened and validated. Issues with her family listened and validated.

W is an introvert, bottler of emotions, and conflict avoider so it is tough to communicate with her these days. She most likely wants to divorce but good luck getting her to say this. She is the type of person who has a tough time deciding what she wants to order at a restaurant.

I am taking advantage of this me time by working out, running, hanging with my bro’s, home improvement projects, joined a men’s group at church, and being the best dad I can be for my two college aged sons. I would like to R with her but will be ok either way. I know she has a lot of resentment built up for me. Maybe she’ll burn through it but I’m not holding my breath. I wish she would work on herself but I have seen no indication that she is. Her reasons for leaving when I asked 11 months ago are very odd events or something that happened long ago. One was over 25 years ago.

She doesn’t have an OM yet but I heard she has one on her radar. Poor fool would not be getting a good version of her these days. Mutual friends have told me she acts like a lost teen.

Thanks for checking in,

Taz