Let's see if this time I get it right. I am in a very emotional moment now and very lost regarding what to do.
You don't have to do anything. Your emotions are controlling you right now. Until you understand that you will continue to make unskillful decisions.
You CAN tolerate intense emotions without doing anything. Try it. It may be excruciating. Force yourself to do it. Then do it again. And again. "Wow," you might say at some point in the future, "I was like a brainless monkey responding to my emotions. Now that I have this newfound emotional awareness, I can *choose* how to respond to situations. I feel empowered, centered, grounded. I feel amazing."
Originally Posted by Pack_19
I heard W was unfaithful but it is a topic I cannot talk to her about, in the meantime she keeps being resentful towards me. At some point I need to decide what to do next, based on my principles and any hopes I can still hold for my M.
That is how she feels right now.
Why must you decide what to do next?
Originally Posted by Pack_19
However, it is not a good time to take action and make a decision. For 15 days. I can just do nothing, let days go by and work on calming down and keep GAL and making me the best I can be. Do you think this path will help me or based on the amount of time we have been S do you see little if not any hope at all?
Working on yourself for 15 days will absolutely help you.
Working on yourself for 15 days may or may not have any effect whatsoever on your W. Probably not, from the sound of it.
