Brside,I cant imagine her doing something like that. I think she still cares about me, just not more than she cares about doing what shes doing right now. This could be my rose colored glasses.
The question I have is... Is the way she is caring about your currently the way you want to be cared about?
Originally Posted by Indy470
In regards to recon, I have no idea what it looks like.
I think it's worth trying to get that picture.
Originally Posted by Indy470
I know she would have to want it, whole heatedly and we'd have to move on.
Again what does that look like? Specific actions help create the picture.
Originally Posted by Indy470
Although I'd want to know she was sorry I wouldn't want her to spend the rest of her life trying to make up for it. That sounds miserable for her and for me. I'd want to move past it and continue a life together after we worked through the issues.
If she wanted to recon and show you for the rest of her life - that would be her choice. Also at some point it would be transitioning from "showing" to just "being". She wouldn't have to work at being more open or more respectful. She would just become more respectful. She can't do that right now. And it seems like you struggle with asking for it.
You have to teach people how to treat you. Not with your words, but with your actions.
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