In all honesty though I’m not feeling the illusion of action right now. I don’t really have an urge to see or talk to W right now. I’ve been doing so much better with that out of sight and out of mind. I think more so I’m just trying to pick others brains to see what helped in their sitch. .
I don't think you being honest with yourself Indy. If you have read Curtis' thread you will know he was good a digging through the old threads and finding threads to justify him to pursue and have relationship talks.
I understand you're still hoping for recon because after all that's what this forum is about. What I am curious about is what that will look like? She gets tired of OM or vice versa and just says " I made a mistake lets go back to how it was" and you say ok? Or do you invision the Hollywood ending where she begs for forgiveness and spends the rest of her life trying to make it up to you? The first is more likely the second only happens in Hollywood.
These situations are usually about resentment which leads to disrespect. In your situation it's just about disrespect. IMO you haven't been married long enough for resentment. The only thing that counters disrespect is strength.
