As someone who came to this part of the boards with trepidation and a sense that it was time to move forward, had I received posts asking me why then I was here I would have certainly left and not come back, as however well-intentioned those posts were they would have made me feel most unwelcome.
Just. Saying.
Perhaps SJay62 is here to explore and put her thoughts out there to better come to an understanding of where she wants to go from here.
I didn't take anyone's post as saying SJay shouldn't post here, so I'm not sure where this is coming from. I took Cadet's question as an introspective question. What drove SJay to post here? What is she missing?
My point is that when someone has the courage to post, it's helpful to begin by extending a welcome rather than posing a question, "why then are you here"
if posted with a welcome, it feels - to me - to be more introspective. Without the welcome, it feels more interrogatory. I hope that clarifies. It takes a lot of courage to post.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
