To answer your rhetorical question, perhaps I don't belong here. I've noticed that the typical poster starts in the newcomer section and then moves to a section that is befitting of their circumstance. I didn't do that. I'm not having a midlife crisis, I didn't walk away, and I'm divorced and done a long time ago. So I'm starting at what most consider to be the end.
Should my qualifications as a divorcebuster in general be in question or that you suspect me of being an internet troll, I shall give a recap. It goes something like this:
My xh left me for another woman. I did everything humanly possible that I knew at the time to try to fix it. I read 'Divorcebusting' among many other books. I don't know if this website existed back then and if it did, I wasn't aware of it. Anyway, it wasn't in the cards and as painful as it was at the time, I'm thankful it didn't. The last 3 years of our marriage, I had contorted myself into the shape of a pretzel trying to be what he thought he wanted and it wasn't enough. I was majorly depressed and didn't even recognize myself anymore. The first year of therapy was dedicated to untwisting the pretzel. I continued for my own benefit. His departure was a gift and I say that sincerely and without bitterness. That revelation didn't come to me overnight but gradually over time. So for the record, I'm not someone who packed up and walked away (not that I'm judging anyone who has)
I'm not 100% sure why I'm here but I think bttrfly summed it up rather nicely. I suppose I chose this site because being divorced presents challenges that only another divorced person can understand. I might be wrong. Or is that just your idea of a warm, fuzzy welcome? 😉
