I have to keep in mind it's never really a result of anything I do or don't do, even if it seems that way. I really need to keep working on seeing his tantrums or moods as a result of decisions he is making, and not a reflection on how I handled an interaction with him.
I dubbed this the "Itchy Butt Syndrome". One day in the middle of crisis my ex was being really irritable. I spent the day dancing around, trying to soothe him, mindreading what I might have said or done to set him off. At the end of the day he mentioned that he had an itchy rash on his butt that had been bothering him all day!
