Thx Job, This is super helpful and I realize it’s all info I should already know.
I think I have shifted from trying to “rationalizing” with him to more so documenting certain things if this ends up in court or escalates to him accusing me of stalling or road blocking him. Maybe documenting none of this matters but as of right now he always “ gets me” in person and I’ve responded as best I can, calmly and factually. I have finally realized that there is no point in trying to explain my side, opinion or rationalize anything...he simply doesn’t get it and only sees things his way.
With this email he sent Yesterday, I have the opportunity to get down in writing that he is not being forthcoming with documents, and that he is also verbally harassing me.
Part of me feels like if I don’t respond to the bully email about the house, he will just verbally attack me again. I guess in reality as I write this, even if I do respond to the email, he’ll probably still attack me for accusing him of being verbally abusive and not having his paperwork done. Ha!!
I guess I‘m just weighing my options for the next encounter. He will be waiting for an answer but I guess once he approached me I could just say “I have nothing else to tell you that I haven’t already ....speak to your lawyer.“ And then disengage and not let him push any buttons that make me want to educate him.
Living with this mean, disrespectful, ungrateful person is so far from who he [/s]is[s]was...I just can’t believe a year into this, what he’s become.
Thx so much Job for the reminder to put my business hat on and keep the focus on me.
