I wouldn't contact your h again and try to rationalize with him. Try to remember that you can't rationalize w/an angry, emotional person. The best thing to do is to allow your lawyer to do the work for you. Papers are missing, so allow him/her to work w/his lawyer.
As for his lawyer bringing a motion to court for the sale of the house....well, that's all come about because your h is demanding that it be done. Never mind that his lawyer probably knows that this won't come about...but money talks and trust me, that lawyer knows what he/she is dealing with.
When we say to listen to the MLCer that means in normal situations...when it comes to divorce and settling up everything, you need to listen to yourself, not him. You have to protect yourself and yes, they will promise you the moon and give you nothing but grief when it comes to actually settling up the property, etc. What you are dealing w/at the moment is a business deal that has gone terribly bad and you have to think like a business partner and protect yourself, your assets, etc. He will say anything, and I do mean anything, to get you to jump through hoops and give him what he wants.
I don't know where you live, but when I went through this, I lived in the home and the house issue was not settled until the divorce was signed, sealed and granted. I have 60 days to either refinance or sell in order to give him his share of the equity. I was lucky that my parents loaned me the little bit I needed to buy him out while waiting for the refinancing to go through. My xh just knew that 60 days wouldn't be enough to turn it around and all he saw was $$$ and he didn't give a fig if I were left living on the streets.
What your h is doing is trying to bully and scare you into doing something you aren't ready to do and he doesn't want to listen to the lawyers. Work w/your lawyer. Trust me, by doing so is well worth the money and allow that person to take the brunt of all of your h's nonsense. Do not allow your h to get to you. Continue to refer him to your lawyer. Do not try to reason w/him because that will make him even madder and more irrational.
Keep the focus on you and put that business hat on. Listen to your lawyer, not your h or his lawyer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
