Finding the man I want to be, alone. Pack_19 part3

[Pack_19]

Why does she keep telling you, for 13 months, that she wants a divorce? Can she not file herself?

She is detaching from you and GAL and dressing well and that is what you should be doing as it obviously works.

If your W wanted the kids for her bday aaashe would have asked IMO.

As far as an open marriage, you can only control whether you stay in the marriage or not. You can't control what she does. Figure out what you want to do.

I have no idea, is like she wants to push me to do it. I dont want to know what is going through her head. I did send her an email saying she could have the kids any time but there was no reply. I took the kids to the pool and we had an amazing afternoon, then I picked up takeaway food and had dinner at home. Before going to sleep I had S6 send her happy birthday audio and I read him a bunch of stories. I was playing with him until he was so tired he ended up snoring next to me. I have not received any reply to either my mail so yes I assume she did not want them.

Hey! I am also dressing well and going out as much as possible when not with the kids, I guess the difference is that I am still attracted to her and she is not attracted to me so she does not care how I do or do not look. ( I also get comments from outside on how good I look so don think because I am emotionally a wreck I am not GAL with friends! :))

I dont want to control her, I want to clarify. Not only is it unfair to do something like that according to my own values that she reacts to the topic in 3 possible ways. She either avoids it, tells me I am jealous and have a problem or gets defensive and tells me I can think whatever I want. Again, I dont want to control her, I dont want to send a message. I will not remain married to a person who thinks is free to do whatever she wants, but I would like to have an adult conversation about this before going for something I see so devastating as D. I am not trying to ask you what to do, which reasons to use to file or why to stand. I genuinely wanted to ask if someone has experience on bringing up this topic in a mature way, I am not going to file based on a rumor.

I hope I could clarify this.

Thank you all