You're totally right. I think kml's comment was a joke and my reply wasn't serious either. Sorry if that didn't come across in the post. I've got no interest in antagonising X for fear for my safety, let alone jeopardising the agreement I'm seeking.
It has been, I think, 15 months since X left. As time goes on, he seems to be getting angrier. The more I tuck myself away and live my solitary life, the more aggravated he seems to act. This latest round of spew started after I served him with the divorce papers. My psychologist said it's because a) consequences are settling in, b) he's lost control of the situation, and c) his new life isn't as great as he thought.
Despite allowing X to continue taking S2 for visits, I am deeply concerned about his potential to use S2 to get to me. Maybe I've watched too many Dateline episodes, I don't know. But X has an inter-generational anger problem, he's got his family in his ear about his rights being taken away, he's dealing with the consequences and shame of his actions... Desperate people do desperate things.
I am hopeful to settle the parenting agreement without lawyers. As far as I know, X doesn't even have one. It's very unlikely this case will ever see the inside of a court room. If it did, the judge would take one look at my email offering immediate increased time, say "take the offer, fool", and throw us out. I'm in the driver's seat when it comes to negotiations. And unfortunately that makes me vulnerable to attack.
