Thanks for posting Ovr and Val! I need to vent and handle more feelings than I thought today. Her going public hit me more than it should and more than I thought it would. Feeling better now and got through the work day well, including 2 hrs at the gym. I feel even stronger now that I want to finish the whole D process and move on physically!
Try to be kind to yourself with the "shoulds". Feelings and thoughts are not really things that we can control. They just kinda are. As you feel them - you learn valuable information about yourself. Also feeling them diminishes your chances of reaction and strengthens your chance of responding... IMHO.
Originally Posted by Mumin
With the house I assume she meant that she wants me to buy her share of the house, no matter what. We both agree it would be good for the kids and she can't afford it. I have already told her I will max my house credit and loan some money from my parents to do it. But it will mean we agree to a valuation of the house that's a bit lower than market value. Not much though so in a sales process she could even get less if we are unlucky. So her getting a new realtor to do a second valuation just prolongs the process really...
I haven't read through your sitch but do you have a L involved? My thoughts are to becareful here. I'm not sure if she is prolonging the process as much as feeling that she is entitled to more. It could also be both. Not your problem really. What do you want to do about the house?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
