WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

Thanks for posting Ovr and Val!
I need to vent and handle more feelings than I thought today.
Her going public hit me more than it should and more than I thought it would.
Feeling better now and got through the work day well, including 2 hrs at the gym.
I feel even stronger now that I want to finish the whole D process and move on physically!

Val your points are great and I will Re read them. Thanks!!

Ovr I also prefer a phone call most of the time but now she called and then wrote for me to call her back as soon as I could. When a four word text would have been sufficient. But you are both right. VAL your text suggestion would be best and I will reference it in the future.

She paid the original debt quite fast but now owes for a heat pump.
I have brought it up when we talk about splitting assets so should be fine.

With the house I assume she meant that she wants me to buy her share of the house, no matter what.
We both agree it would be good for the kids and she can't afford it.
I have already told her I will max my house credit and loan some money from my parents to do it. But it will mean we agree to a valuation of the house that's a bit lower than market value. Not much though so in a sales process she could even get less if we are unlucky. So her getting a new realtor to do a second valuation just prolongs the process really...