Also this morning W called. I didnt answer so she asked me to call and I did a while later. Short call but it was only about asking if kids were in school. Something she could have jsut written on FB or SMS... I am thinking about asking her to not call for small matter like that. Any input/perspectives?
IMO - you should not ask her. That's a form of control to manage your own feelings. What you can control are your own actions.
Perhaps you could text her next time - "Hey. Can't chat right now. What's up?".
Or you could not respond at all. I know that's scary with having kids but my gut says that if it truly important - there will be a more detailed message involved. I'll let vets here w/kids speak to that.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
