Two year anniversary of BD, I don't actually remember the exact date but it's around now. Gosh, what a long way I've come. H leaving was the most heartbreaking, awful thing ever to happen to me, even though he was a rubbish H for much of our marriage. But I'm in a good place now, the kids are both doing well and don't seem bothered by H's behaviour other than resenting being replaced by a dog (ds2 said this to me recently...)
H is in a terrible place still, saw him at the weekend and he was whining about everything. So much for leaving because he wasn't happy lol. Such a contrast with my new bloke, who left because he wasn't happy in his marriage and has actually built himself a nice life and seems pretty content...
Things are really good with my new man, he moved house recently and I like his new place. We are planning to go away near the end of October which should be lovely. He's funny and clever and likes to look after me and is pretty good in bed. We match in weird and idiosyncratic ways and our values are aligned, which is important. I like him a huge amount, might be growing to love him though I'm being cautious. When I went to see his new house I could imagine our future grandkids running round the house and garden, so I guess part of me sees a future with him! I've not met his kids or told mine about him though, that can wait till after D starts going through and ds1 is off to uni and settled.
Two years is both a long time and a very short one. I would not wish that amount of pain on my worst enemy, but I think I'm happier now than I was before H left. You know how quadriplegics and lottery winners alike move back to the same happiness level over time after their life changing circumstances? Well, take heart because it's true. Though I think my life is actually nicer now that I don't have H's terrible behaviour to put up with. His misery no longer infects my life, and for that I am thankful. Time to move forward with D in a few weeks, I wonder how H will react?
