So this guy has had two A’s, he has lost his business (trainer for triathletes; all his clients left after learning of the 2nd A), was living on a vacant lot in someones trailer and was stocking shelves at Walmart at night. A TOTAL F’ing loser. Any yet my W is still talking to him (I don't know if its more) and putting him on a pedestal (the email I read would make you gag). Its very clear to me that she never got over him and properly dealt with the A on her end and THAT is why we never were able to move on from the A.
It's pretty normal for the AP to be a step down. My friend's X got together with a convicted con man / yard laborer (yes, she learned the hard way).
My other reaction is please make sure D17 has access to help and resources. She may really benefit from having somebody to talk to privately about her feelings that she has bottled up for so long.
