I did send her a message telling her I thought her behaviour was despicable and she was a lousy wife and mother (yes I was freaking inspired there but I let my emotions run wild) and she passed it on to her L. I have been warned by my L because of domestic violence so I am backing off totally. Basically, all the things I thought she would never do, she is doing.
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Hard 2x4 - You CANNOT be sending these kinds of text messages and think they are doing anything other than massive harm. Not only will you end up D'd, you may end up battling for time with your kids. Restraining orders have been issued on far flimsier things (fair or not). Drill this in your head. I'm sorry for the harsh tone but forget about your W and your MR and everything else. You need to follow this rule first and foremost right now. I cannot stress this enough.
Rather than focus on your W, who I assure you cannot control in any way whatsoever, try shifting that focus to your own emotional awareness, self-control, and self-soothing. You are reacting emotionally and issuing ultimatums, sending nasty texts... do you see the direction you might be headed?
I agree with LH that you have a lot to work on. Hang in there, focus on what's important and ignore the noise.
