When you really let go and get to a point where you are ready to move on, then the opportunity may arise.
The 'moving on' is the part I struggle with. As a Christian I don't believe in divorce or remarriage, so I'm in for a single life if my W and I never reconcile. (I won't divert the forum by going into the scriptures behind that, but google 'john piper divorce remarriage position paper' for a succinct but thorough analysis that pretty much explains it.)
Perhaps I shouldn't be so hung up on wording, perhaps I should just take Steve's words as 'ready to live life solo'.
I too do not believe in divorce and remarriage due to the scriptures. The only exception being in the case of sexual sin (referred to as fornication in the KJV). So I understand. I was in the same situation as you. Even though my W had an EA (a gray area since there was no physical contact), I was looking at a life of being single due to my deeply held spiritual beliefs. Even with that, I had to let go, let her go, let her figure herself out, and focus on myself. If I had continued to pursue her I believe I would be divorced, and single, today. However, my faith in God was such that I knew that no matter what happened, I was going to be ok! Trust Him!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
