First PLC, pls write away! I learn so much from other people’s posts and I don’t feel like it’s a hijack at all!. I don’t comment often because so many more people give better advice than me. But I read and read and find so much comfort in (Sadly) the similarities in many of our situations, the wisdom, the learning and the growth that takes place here. I have never joined anything like this online and am so grateful for this place of comfort during such a time of confusion, sadness and loss. The words of so many people on here have helped dissipate some fear and kept me on the higher path of forgiveness while learning to detach.
Peacetoday, thank you!
Originally Posted by peacetoday
They just magically want all the assets and their freedom, at least mine did
This is so true of my H...I see it so clearly now. He hired a L from day one to deal with everything for him so he could just walk away and live his best new found life...but it’s not working for him in the way that he thought it would and he clearly doesn’t know what to do but make threats to scare me into a reaction of some sort. I will not bite.
Originally Posted by peacetoday
It is not you...practice and remind yourself you did a really good job with a very difficult situation and his MLC is his from his childhood issues unresolved You can not help him with that
This I can’t hear enough of...I’m doing the best I can in a difficult situation. I am truly finally starting to believe this. Thx for the reminder Peace!
dnj so much goodness in here ...I feel the need to quote your whole message!!! Lol!!! I don’t know where to start but feel the need to say thank you for taking so much time to give to others. Everything you wrote/write is so thoughtful and truly helps more than you’ll ever know.
Originally Posted by DnJ
People’s actions and behaviours are not about us. I am just not that important. People’s paths and behaviours are about them. Our egos get in the way and make it about us.
Ego is not a bad thing. It is our narrative. The story we tell ourselves.
It helps to realize that ego needs to be right. It judges. It holds grudges. It makes things about you, even when they aren’t.
Letting go of one’s ego, brings peace and understanding. Ego is still there, and still speaks, one just realizes there is something deeper going on than it first appears.
Your curiosity and desire to understand. A good path, IMHO.
Have a great day. D
It is late here and I need to reread your full post but this ego part is really speaking to me tonight and I’m excited to go to sleep pondering this over. I may not be able to find answers pertaining to H...but I can continue investing in me!
My ego needs to take a chill pill. I do think it’s about me in so many faucets of my life. I worry to much about what people think, I consistently put others ahead of myself and when someone is upset I take it personally and sometimes will even wonder what I‘ve done. It’s draining. I’d like to keep the compassionate parts of this and learn to ditch the negative ego side (the judging of myself and H, the grudges etc) that creeps in and just live. MY. life. Being a people pleaser has not always served me well.
Thanks for saying I’m on a good path dnj ..your opinion means a lot to me
