Not to be snide, but I guess I was under the impression that DBing meant “not having a divorce.” lol
Also I was led to think that DBing has a reasonable chance for success. While your statement is qualitative, I believed it had better odds than, “she will likely divorce you.”
I’m not asking her for a temperature check, or anything like that.
On top of that, it seems, and I could be wrong, that you believe I’m not already following your advice in your last paragraph. Sure I’m not perfect, I have a few emotional moments, but I keep them away from her view. When I come here it’s to ask if her reaction is from DBing, which would be doing things like showing her I’m moving on too. You say that would be the quickest, but would you still say this is years later after a D?
You seem to be DB'ing reasonably well, but it's a marathon and not a sprint. Mentally prepare yourself. Timelines differ. Sometimes, WW have a relatively quick change of heart (months, not years), but it's more common that it will be longer. You'll tear yourself up keeping expectations. Lovingly detach, fix what needs to be fixed, and GAL (get a life).
