Sage - just wanted to drop by to say how much your thread is helping me and how well you’re doing handling the situation with yourself and the kids!!
The gaslighting is the biggest take away for me right now. As dnj pointed out, it can definitely takes a toll against one’s self worth if you let it. Part of me feels like my H just got worse (In the sense of looking for reasons to explode and exuding negativity) the more I started to go no contact....does that even make sense?
When dnj and others say “H is conflicted and confused right now” I do see that and agree...but the mind is strange in how it processes things. It takes so long to come to terms with something when it doesn’t make sense and his behaviour and words don’t match.
I also relate to how you feel about the in-laws. I want to scream from the mountain top all the things H is doing because I know he’s painted me as the bad person...Somehow I’ve shown restraint.
Keep doing well Sage especially with your busy plate with the 4 wee ones! (((Sage)))
