Since I last posted, my focus has been almost entirely on me, and I haven't spent any time reading articles and websites in an attempt to understand H.
Good for you Cardinal! Not easy to stop this hunt for answers but I deleted all the tabs I had open on my phone and felt a sense of relief. I’ve read so much that it all started to blend together and was getting me nowhere mentally. When I do focus on myself I find much more peace so there’s my answer as to where the value is right now.
Originally Posted by cardinal
bttrfly, you advised me not to try to plan too far in advance. For the last 14 months, I've been operating on the assumption that I would stay here, that post-D I would give myself a year to figure out if I wanted to make any big changes, that no life decisions would need to be made in the midst of what is already such a life-altering shift. But I've been wondering if being willing to leave my life here and move in search of another one is something that would benefit me in negotiation wth H, monetarily and/or emotionally, in that it may mean a quicker agreement, and less time with this alien H. Could any positives there really outweigh what I'd be giving up? How can I know that in the present?
Been doing lots of thinking on all of this too Cardinal...for the longest time I felt like having to leave my house was another “failure” on top of the D (none of which has happened yet) one day at a time and only deal with what’s immediately on the plate. But this is hard being a planner and not liking suspense. Many of my close circle don’t understand why I would want to stay here...but we’ve accomplished so much here, I love the area and have completed so many Reno’s to make it home. I’m coming around to a mindset that perhaps the answers will present themselves when it’s time. I dunno?
Yummmm I love any excuse for cake and would love a piece!!!
