So by the time you get here the odds are not in your favor to save the marriage but it certainly has been done. No one here wants a divorce or they wouldn’t be here. DBing does give you the best chance of saving your marriage.
Again her actions are probably more because of relief then anything. It’s finally out on the table that she is done and you seem to be taking well so there is less guilt on her part.
I would love to say ATL if you do this, this and this you will save your marriage within 2 months. It doesn’t work that way. I wish it did.
The problem is you can’t pretend to show her you moved on you actually have to move on. Your W knows you better then anyone in the world.
Lastly I think you need to do a little more reading on the forums and get the concepts down. Temperature checks are done by the WWs to the the LBS to see if they are still emotionally on the hook.
You have a chance but you’re going to have to have infinite patience and that may include going through a divorce. The good news is it’s survivable either way and you will be happy again at some point.
