I have so much I want to say about all of the events you have endured these past few days, Scout, but I only have a moment and want to echo the others on the aikido maneuver of letting H have S2 every Sat night.
Just today, I had a first hand experience of this actually working (in my favor!). It had to do with Covid homeschooling the children, where it would happen and who would be in charge. I have been fretting about this for weeks and weeks, talking to my IC about it etc etc. But all along I have been amicable and seemed interested in splitting things equally etc (NOT what I want). Well this morning we had the big final talk about how it was all going to break down (school starts tomorrow) and he suggested I take charge and that it happens consistently in my home and that I let him know when I need help. YES!
Some extended time with the children while I was out of town, combined with an onslaught of teacher emails (x 4 kids) and the logistical nightmare of it all Made him realize it was too much for him. And I didn’t even have to say a thing.
Also, our child custody timing has also turned out the same: I am ending up with more and more time as the weeks go by. Because he doesn’t have to fight me for the time, it becomes less precious.
