Ever since I made a commitment to DB principles, things have been more positive, and friendly in our house. My W initiates fun conversation, we laugh, tell jokes, play with our S6.
This is good for your son.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy13
She has a concern, I listen and validate, and it's usually not about me, but something else in her life.
This is good. Validation is very powerful.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy13
It's the best it's been months. Her voice radiates when she speaks to me. She texted me the other day to ask where I was at when I was running errands.
This is good for your son.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy13
It honestly doesn't seem fake. But where is it coming from?
It's coming from relief. She feels good that the cat is out of the bag.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy13
She hasn't approached me about R, and with the exception of the conversation last week, nothing about D. Even then I was the one who was said "separate," only for her to nod and immediately blanch when I pointed out that she couldn't say it, but immediately told her that I genuinely know this is hard on her, and it was ok. She looked away and seemed misty eyed taken back. She looked conflicted.
Unfortunately she is not conflicted but probably is sad. She doesn't like hurting you or your son.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy13
Does my situation sound normal or the least bit common?
Its very normal. You are lucky you have one of the better WWs.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy13
So far she can't say the word R/D. She seems joyful and happy, and relaxed around me.
Again because she feels relieved. ATL I don't want you to give up hope but she hasn't changed her mind. Likely won't for years. If you are in it to recon you have to play the long game.
