Ever since I made a commitment to DB principles, things have been more positive, and friendly in our house. My W initiates fun conversation, we laugh, tell jokes, play with our S6. She has a concern, I listen and validate, and it's usually not about me, but something else in her life. It's the best it's been months. Her voice radiates when she speaks to me. She texted me the other day to ask where I was at when I was running errands.
It honestly doesn't seem fake. But where is it coming from?
She hasn't approached me about R, and with the exception of the conversation last week, nothing about D. Even then I was the one who was said "separate," only for her to nod and immediately blanch when I pointed out that she couldn't say it, but immediately told her that I genuinely know this is hard on her, and it was ok. She looked away and seemed misty eyed taken back. She looked conflicted.
Does my situation sound normal or the least bit common? So far she can't say the word R/D. She seems joyful and happy, and relaxed around me.
"I will not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will face my fear. I will let it pass over me. When the fear has gone, there shall be nothing. Only I will remain."
