I started to reason with him but quickly stopped when I realized what I was doing and ended with “do whatever you gotta do” and walked away.
Bravo! Every once in a while I think of all the times I wish I would have bowed out during my H's last spewing. I fully plan to stick to that in the future. It's so hard when the impulse is to just reason with them, isn't it?
Yes it absolutely is...but I have definitely learned from past engagements that it is pointless and futile and certainly doesn’t make me feel any better.
Fully confirmed H is in some phase now where it appears like he is literally waiting for anything to pounce on, yell about and accuse me of....messy, angry little person. The man I married is becoming more and more hidden. I don’t even see glimpses anymore. He seems so full of hate. This hurts.
The tongue lashing tonight was unreal. I am supposed to be able to read his mind apparently... Something we’ve been doing a certain way throughout all of this, I was supposed to know he now wants no part of. Then I asked if he wanted something in the fridge or freezer and the response I got was an attack about how I’m holding him up from selling the house, his L is waiting on my paperwork....the house has to be listed immediately etc... all of which is not true. My lawyer has all of my docs and says she’s still waiting on him and his full FD.
This is becoming frustrating because every time I reach out to my L I’m getting charged. I don’t want to keep “double checking” with her. He makes me feel like I haven’t done something. I’m so not accustomed to standing down, that this feels so wrong. The panic in me flares up and I feel like I’m going to get blindsided by something or screwed out of something by my ignorance in these proceedings.
How does he not know he is the one holding things up? Unless the two lawyers are playing a game??? Now he’s got me thinking all kinds of nonsense. I dislike other people (L) Speaking on my behalf, but in this situation I had no choice.
Why does everything he yells about sound so convincing? He’s become a master liar. Along with that is the pure awful “hate” energy emanating from him. Man is it strong. I think I need a house cleanse.
Cardinal I have yet to get to making those brownies! This week for sure!
