This is more or less the "story" I got from her at BD over a year ago. It's what she has cooked up in her head to give herself permission to make the choices she has made.
Vu is right that this is not something she has cooked up in her head this is how she feels. Right or wrong these are her feelings. Just like it's up to you whether you have empathy for her or not. Those are your feelings and there are not right wrong. If you read other threads there are guys on here like Ironwill and DNJ who have a lot of empathy for WWs. Then there some who have none. Personally I had empathy early on but me ex has crossed some boundaries with me that the empathy has faded. I also agree that our exs are not evil and are just trying to be happy. Heck the Pursuit of Happiness is even in the Declaration of Independence lol. The problem is that they are not educated enough on the subject in regards to what happens in a mid-life transition and how hormones and brain chemicals play a factor in their feelings. Typically years down the road they are in the same place they started just without the history, friends and finances they once had and still seeking happiness. The toughest part is when you have kids because then one person is making a decision for the entire family.
Originally Posted by WMLC
This is about her, not about me.
Absolutely! You played a role in it but in all likelihood this was always going to be the outcome.
