Contacting my atty after 6weeks... being in contact with H yesterday. Starting with some frustration and kick back on his end... to wait he calls and apologizes to wanting to be helpful with my car issue.
The earlier frustration and just accepting that at the last hour he has decided not to cooperate and just forwarding all the stuff to the atty... to the surprise apology for his earlier behavior to showing concern about my car issue when I was not asking for his assistance.
Kicking myself today... totally thinking that if the concern about my car had been genuine he would have sent a follow up asking if it was the battery. Yup, I get it this is me having expectations.
Just like him reaching out to me was some sort of "fix" and relief that perhaps the old H is in there somewhere.... to the reality of "nope, just kidding" withdraw today. I recognize it for what it is.
I've been in touch with my atty more today. If he does turn around and wants to cooperate - fine. If not I've got everything I need to move forward without his cooperation.
This is why you should not be giving details. Instead of: "I am having car trouble, I am at the shop. I need to go." Just: "I have to go! Bye."
You give details, he reacts to the details (likely deep down even if subconsciously you knew he would), and then you are stuck for 30 more seconds.
Mystery is your friend. Be mysterious. Play coy. "I have to go, I am busy...." "Why what are you doing?" "I don't have time for this right now, bye." Then hang-up. He'll start wondering. He'll start to worry that you are moving on. His mind will start to race....."Last time I saw her she looked amazing, I bet she met someone else!"
Even WAHs that have moved on with OW do not like the idea of their EX meeting someone new.
I know you are a detail-oriented person. I can tell that from your posting. But you do not owe this man details.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
