Dreadfully Optimistic

[BL42]

LH... I concur. What you wrote is EXACTLY what happened in my marriage. Exactly. Seems so fixable, doesn’t it?

Most are very fixable. The problem is the are so many variables that come in after B drop. Brian chemicals, hormones, resentment, A/Ps and all logic goes out the window and decisions are based on emotions. One of my favorite quotes is "when decisions are based on emotions there are sure to be consequences". Think about people who are willing to give up half their time with children, financial security, friends and family for some guy/girl they just formed a connection with recently. Crazy right?

Yes! That is the most frustrating part for me, and I imagine most LBSs. My W and I have had no major blowout fights. There's been no domestic/alcohol/substance abuse, finances are good, no infidelity (until her this year)...etc. Sure we've disagreed on the childrens' nutrition and screen-time and some purchases, but to your point...

How could WAS/WSs possibly think losing out on half of the childrens' lives and splitting up the finances easier than working through those types of disagreements...for a person they've known for a month or two? It does sound crazy. It seems ludicrous. But I guess they're not thinking like that at all. To them it's much bigger of deal and seems impossible to continue feeling like they do.