Sending him his mail unceremoniously shows him that you are starting to detach. The thank you with the question mark was really his way of expressing his surprise that you took that action. He expected you to want him to come pick it up. Just like he expected you to want to meet to sign the disclosure. He knows you and knows what you want, so when that changes he will feel the resultant loss of control (almost all sitches get there) and he will begin reaching out more and more. I wouldn't be surprised that once you get really good at NC and start moving on with your life if he shows up, unannounced, at the house one day. It is standard WAS playbook stuff.
The next move is to start writing "address changed, return to sender" on his mail and sticking it back in the mailbox for the carrier to pick back up. He is a big boy. He moved. He needs to handle his change of address. I don't care how important the envelope may look, he needs to put on his big boy pants and grow up and be a man.
You are right... even though I've really not been responding to maybe every 4th or 5th text ultimately he still knows I want to save the M.
I was tired of looking at that pile of mail and without any warning I just boxed and sent --- surprised me as much as it probably surprised him.
Yes, I agree. If any future mail slips through.... "its return to sender... address unknown... no such number... no such zone" Maybe someone on the board will get this???
