I'm crossing x,y and z off my list. I've given up on sitting in person to do this so I'm doing the best I can to remember what was discussed months ago as the actual split has not been addressed since he was locked out of the house.
After I sent my pay stubs and requested his I sent a spreadsheet with who was taking what debt and where those debts will end up when paid off. At this point we've already splint household items, bank accounts, and credit cards.
I was business like to the T.
But, holy cow the kick back.... He went on to say how he has been working his arse off lately and I know how much he hates working like that. (I do but he can no longer blame me.... ) How I was not going to be going after his OT. WHAT? I'm just collecting docs needed for settlement. How I had better have a settlement in writing to sign by the end of the week. SERIOUSLY??? In 2 days? Even if everything was agreed to it will not be dictated and ready in 48hr. I held my ground. Said "ok, I will take everything I have at this point to atty and let her pursue subpoena for the remainder". Ended it....
5 min later he is back at it. Saying my atty is out to screw him over.... blah blah blah. But, now he is sending me the 2 most recent pay stubs. I reminded him I tried to meet with him 3 separate times to get this done. He fired back - you did not. I reminded him "Sunday and Tuesday of last week and last Sunday". He starts complaining on who gets the equity in the time share --- I state there is NO equity, its worthless and he was welcome to keep it if he thought it had value. He wanted to argue its real estate... I told him if he could find anywhere that states it has value he was welcome to present it.... Ended it...
40min later he calls. I'm rolling my eyes. But, I answer because I want this DONE. He immediately states he owes me an apology. ((((WOW)))) - mind blown.... listening. He said he is exhausted and sleep deprived and I know how he gets with a short fuse. He was worried that if we met on Sunday while he was so tired that it would not go well. If he was leaning towards cranky and I was getting upset because I wasn't understanding something with agreement it would completely go downhill between us. And, then he had a friend who asked if he wanted to go my town.
I just said "I hear you". "That makes sense because I do know how you get."
He went on to say "I need to go home and sleep. I'm so exhausted and that is why I have a short fuse today".
I went on to "I understand. I accept your apology" (((Even though I know 100% because of the other text he sent me on Saturday that the time at X orchard was planned over 24hr in advance and you still continue to lie to me. But, I stuffed that down)))
I told him I needed to go. My car hasn't been starting correctly and I'm at the store to get it checked. H went on to be like "oh whats wrong with your car?" His tone is completely changed --- back to one I finally recognize, my old H. I said I think its either the battery or the starter and was getting the battery checked first. H is a car guru. So he starts asking this and that... I told him I had it under control that the battery had not been changed in this vehicle since it was purchased 4yr ago and it was the most likely issue. He was like yeah, that's probably the issue. I blew him off. How dare he try to save the day. I'm completely capable of wearing my own super hero cape thank you. I know it was just guilt that kicked in.... he was a complete arse, I called him out and held my ground and made it clear I can fix my own freaking car. Said again, I need to go get this taken care of... good bye.
LH is completely right --- wants to be "friendly" without really being friends.
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Well I don't want your friendship. I was your wife for nearly 10yr. AND Dear H you are absolutely right, I know exactly how you get when you work so much OT... why??? because I was married to you for nearly 10yrs... took care of you for 10yr... made your meals, packed your lunch, did your laundry, paid the bills on time, listened to you complain and tried to make sure you had all your "toys" that you felt you deserved because other people had that. At what point will that SMACK you in the head??? Sure you are loving your freedom to come and go and do what you please but I'm sure the novelty is starting to wear a little thin at this point???
And, of course YOU feel screwed over. No one ending M comes out a winner. You still have bills but now your resources and assets are cut by 50%. That makes everyone a loser. And, oh wait you are still a liar.
Now off to finish my day!!!!
Car has new battery! Full Bazillion Wax - DONE On way to get hair color/highlights/cut ---- YEAH!! Made HUGE progress on this knitted sweater!!! Found pattern to make a felted pig with moveable joints and the pink wool arrived today!! --- SS20's fiance loves pigs!!!!
) How I was not going to be going after his OT. WHAT? I'm just collecting docs needed for settlement. How I had better have a settlement in writing to sign by the end of the week. SERIOUSLY??? In 2 days? Even if everything was agreed to it will not be dictated and ready in 48hr. I held my ground. Said "ok, I will take everything I have at this point to atty and let her pursue subpoena for the remainder". Ended it.... 