As I have already posted I boxed his mail that was piling up here and spend the $20 to mail to him. I got confirmation it was delivered at 1pm yesterday. Within the hour I get this text -
H: thank you for forwarding the mail?
Whatever dude. 1) you could have said nothing, 2) you could have just stopped at thank you, 3) what the heck does the ? mean?
Anyway - no reply from me.
Sending him his mail unceremoniously shows him that you are starting to detach. The thank you with the question mark was really his way of expressing his surprise that you took that action. He expected you to want him to come pick it up. Just like he expected you to want to meet to sign the disclosure. He knows you and knows what you want, so when that changes he will feel the resultant loss of control (almost all sitches get there) and he will begin reaching out more and more. I wouldn't be surprised that once you get really good at NC and start moving on with your life if he shows up, unannounced, at the house one day. It is standard WAS playbook stuff.
The next move is to start writing "address changed, return to sender" on his mail and sticking it back in the mailbox for the carrier to pick back up. He is a big boy. He moved. He needs to handle his change of address. I don't care how important the envelope may look, he needs to put on his big boy pants and grow up and be a man.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
