KitKat, I love all the advice you give to me and others on this board. When i read them, it’s almost like a different KK is writing them. Could you make space in your head for an exercise? The exercise being this: take a moment to quiet your mind and your reaction to H and think about what you would objectively advise another person on this board? Step put of your own mind for a moment and pretend you are a stranger to yourself. What would you advise her? What wisdom would you impart? How would you deliver that wisdom and what would you expect her next post to say?
Channel your deep wisdom and apply it to your own situation. You are clearly wise. You are clearly loving. You are clearly a good person. Give your best self to YOURSELF right now. You deserve it.
When your H left for another life, he also abandoned the right to infringe, provoke or have any say on your life right now. And as hard as it is, liberation is a two-way street. You also don’t have a right to infringe, provoke or have any say on HIS life at the moment. Getting cozy with this concept will help you to detach. And detachment will lead to your best opportunity for R, your best opportunity for a new life.
