I have not snooped... I don't go looking... period.
You keep saying that, yet you keep posting all this information about your H's private life. And I bet right now as you read this you are already crafting an elaborate explanation for why it's not snooping and how the information just magically keeps falling in your lap somehow, completely against your will. Forget the explanation, you've got to quit snooping! Don't make excuses, just stop it. You're torturing yourself with all this info! And you're just pushing H farther and farther away.
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I've had the address to the home he purchased since last April - the insurance company sent it to me. I have never once googled the address or zillowed the address or even when I have had to drive by his town on my way to S19 college I never detour. Not interest.
That's 1 of the 100 things you could be snooping about. And good for you! But if you snoop on 10 of the 100 things, then waving around the other 90 doesn't excuse the 10.
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So why would he put my email address when he purchased something through square --- that is NOT on me.... that's him. He wanted me to know.
That's your overactive imagination filling in the blanks. More than likely the email address is the default email in Square and he has never bothered to change it because A) he's lazy and B) he doesn't care whether you see it or not.
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She states OW is a horrible housekeeper and posts lots of selfies in this hoarder style house. I thought she was just trying to make me feel better when she mentioned one that you could literally see dog sh$t on the carpet of a selfie of OW sitting on couch in her pjs in a very cluttered mess but very clearly dog excrement right there on the carpet next to her... no mistaking it. AND, she put this on the internet. Like not a single friend would have said... uhmm... try cropping that pic??? She had to send it to me because i did not believe her.
^^^^NONE of my business but it did make me laugh that H wants to live in that kind of filth.
It's very common for WAS's to "affair down". We don't really know why they do it, but a few of us have surmised it's because they were starving for attention in the M and if they affair down a level or two below their own level then they find someone who feels so lucky to have them that they'll lavish attention on them. I don't know that he likes living in a mess, maybe he doesn't. Or maybe he doesn't care. But what does it matter. Let go of this stuff, for you.
Your right - my friend should not have said anything --- she was just trying to make me feel better and laugh. Her heart was in the right place.
When mail shows up at my home --- and it clearly says all over it PA TURNPIKE or XYZ. I'm not snooping but it clearly is not discrete. I am not out looking to dig up information. It really is none of my business... it just doesn't help when it shows up at my house when it should be being sent to his house.
I'm not trying to make excuses - truly. But what do you do when it lands in your lap??? Most of the time I'm very good at ignoring.... just chucking it on his pile and going about my day.
Sunday was a hard day as he told me this tall tale which I knew was not true and I clearly never asked for him to tell me in the first place -- I wasn't looking to know why he was in town last week or yesterday or the fact he is in town the following week for a Dr appt.... he just kept talking. Knowing that he was obviously lying to me I was already annoyed... and how he had been texting me that he has been working 12's 7 days a week and he is so tired... but not tired enough to drive 3hr for donuts....
