Happy b-day Illidin -

Yes the old habits are difficult to break sometimes. We become so accustomed to behaviors from our spouses that when they suddenly stop, it is a shock to the system.

This is completely normal. It will take awhile for those feelings to subside - but from.what you've written you seem to be on the right track. There will be good days and bad days, but you will get through it.

I agree with AS. Neutral is a good place to be if you are unsure what to do next. You have all the time in the world to figure it out now - so try not to worry too much about it. smile

Keep up the NC - no need to know what she is doing. Its better for you that way.

Take care - stay strong