I usually suggest that LBSs keep wearing their ring until they are D'd. KC, I think you are the exception. I think that in your mind he is still your HUSBAND, and that you are still his WIFE. But for him it hasn't been that way for going on 9 months. He has moved on from you and you are stuck waiting there for him.
You realize that's an oxymoron right??? Encouraging people to wear a ring until they are divorced means that yes you ARE still a W and have an H... that's the commitment the ring symbolizes.
Wearing a ring when you don't have an H --- what are you wearing it for??? That's delusional.
You wear the ring because legally you are H and W. In the eyes of the law he is my H. A pretty crappy one at the moment but wearing a ring or not ---- yes Steve85 he is my H. Until he follows through with the D.
I'm 100% aware he is in no hurry to do the paperwork. The line in the sand has been drawn with the legal S. The rest is just semantics. I have no delusion. I'm just done doing all the hard work. He can clean up his own mess.
I have not snooped... I don't go looking... period.
I've had the address to the home he purchased since last April - the insurance company sent it to me. I have never once googled the address or zillowed the address or even when I have had to drive by his town on my way to S19 college I never detour. Not interest.
Everything is separated. We don't share accounts or credit cards. So why would he put my email address when he purchased something through square --- that is NOT on me.... that's him. He wanted me to know.
I needed to vent to a friend and while I have never been to his or OW's SM apparently my friend does go. Given how upset I was over this she decided to share something she found in efforts to make me laugh over all the stupidity of this.
She states OW is a horrible housekeeper and posts lots of selfies in this hoarder style house. I thought she was just trying to make me feel better when she mentioned one that you could literally see dog sh$t on the carpet of a selfie of OW sitting on couch in her pjs in a very cluttered mess but very clearly dog excrement right there on the carpet next to her... no mistaking it. AND, she put this on the internet. Like not a single friend would have said... uhmm... try cropping that pic??? She had to send it to me because i did not believe her.
^^^^NONE of my business but it did make me laugh that H wants to live in that kind of filth.
