I don't seem to do a thing right when it comes to saving my M. That shipped has sailed too I suppose.
Well KK in all honesty I have been trying to tell you that if you were trying to recon that you were in a 2-5 year waiting game. Your goal was to wish him well and go live your life to the fullest. We had suggested IC for sure for you because although I am not a therapist I have lived with and done lots of research on narcissist and you at minimum have narc tendencies. You are still trying to control the situation and your STBXH. The fact you still have a shared calendar completely blows my mind. Your goal right now is to make him less resentful and miss you. That can not possibly happened with you in his business. He is not divorcing you because of a long work communicate. He is divorcing you because he is not happy and believes he can be happier without you. It's really that simple. If you want to stand then you have to play the waiting game and see whether he is happier without you. You believe that he will be that is why you are holding on so tight.
You have been given great advice since day one in which you have chosen to ignore most of it. You are digging yourself a hole that you do not have a big enough shovel to dig yourself out of.
