He was honest when he was unhappy and wanted out and took the steps to do so. He was somewhat honest with his time while he was gone though I tried and did the best job I could at giving him space and not calling/texting.
Its just I'm not asking what he is doing or who he is doing it with soooooo why does he call and try to tell me these stories??? Why the elaborate ruse of he was moving R&L's D into college when it was OW's D???
I didn't ask at all who he moved in the dorms.
The while on the phone on Sunday he goes on to state "oh I was in town yesterday but I couldn't get a hold of you" . I did not ask why he drove 1hr to my town yesterday. The town where he hated to to live because the commute every day broke him. It wasn't any of my business... but here he goes again "I was taking more stuff to R&L's D. Again, a lie but whatever I ignored.
Its the accumulation of lies that I reached my breaking point.
He had this problem when we were first dating. It was like the toddler who got stuck with his hand in the cookie jar and would still say he didn't take a cookie. It was like a knee jerk reaction to a direct question sometimes and I could tell he was not honest because he sucked at lying. It kind of came down to past trauma with his first ExW that he was always on the defensive and with his mother. I stopped dating him because of it - I value honesty.
He got his sh$t together... realized his triggers.... made ammends and I made him jump through some hoops to know this was a dealt issue. He knew he could trust me and I would not judge because I'd rather have the truth than a lie. AND, for 9 1/2yr he stopped lying. Again - he is a terrible liar and just like there are tells in poker he had some distinct ones too.
But, the flat out lying is back.
^^^ that is where all this anger and taking off my ring came from. I was not snooping. I did not go looking. I'm just thankful at the last minute I opted to mow the yard rather than going to the orchard.
It really doesn't matter. I don't seem to do a thing right when it comes to saving my M. That shipped has sailed too I suppose.
