What a wild few days. Major change in behaviour which I watched slowly creep in....the full out ignoring, to camera installed in his room, to all doors in his area being shut at all times as soon as he leaves the house ...but by far was a verbal outburst which has now left me with feeling scared for the first time since this started.
I have been super careful throughout this pandemic despite being back to work and have kept my circle very small. I finally after a solid 6 months decided to have a small group of 4 people over outside in the backyard ...2 came in twice to use [/b]my [b]bathroom which was fully wiped down before and after (didn’t go near any of “his” area).
Well, the next morning when he saw me he is [/b]flew [b]at me from across a table in a full rage about how me having people over and in the house is BS ... threatening that the house will be listed next month..among many other things. I tried to calm him down and reason but very quickly realized (and have read on here) that there is no point. So finally I just said “do what you have to do” and walked away.
Such stranger behaviour..but I guess not for MLC H. I’m Scared of how his behaviour escalated and scared about what might trigger him to become this vocally violent again.
If I look past what he said, I can assume that he was furious that I was GAL (until the wee hours of the morning) and that it had nothing to do with the people being over. Maybe?
On top of that I found out he spoke with the neighbours and gave a very inaccurate true to MLC reason as to why we are separating including that he[/i] wants to travel and do more!!!!! WHAT!!!?? [i][u][/u] I’m dumbfounded...only kinda Tho ‘cause of my education from this site.
Since then the excessive exercise has ramped up to a ridiculous level again, and I feel like he’s crawled back into a deeper whole then where he started.
Did I handle this ok? Should I let this stop me from safety having people over again? For my own curiosity is anyone an expert of MLC stages? What stage does this behaviour seem like? Why is the behaviour so backwards? (back to a month after BD) Could his return to work and the potential to see ow (from 1year ago April) be a trigger of some sort?
Sorry lots of curiosity questions....but still focusing on me.
