they will use an argument or other ways to manipulate the truth so the LBS will react
This may prove to them they are doing the right thing by leaving and blaming the LBS for the issues instead of taking any responsibility for anything
NC is helpful or limiting contact and trying to not react
Knowing this is their strategy, they may totally believe it also that they are always right and you are controlling,.....or the problem
We have to have our own strategy to avoid the pit stay calm and neutral
Could be something like
" Im sorry you feel that way"
"I hear what your saying"
"I cant talk right now" and leave the area
These responses may also anger the person who wants to fight but as we practice avoiding the pitfalls we get better
KNOW it is nothing about you but its his stuff The MLCer is not living in reality
They want to feel good and be happy but they do not realize that leaving the M will never fix their longstanding childhood issues, and MLC is about those unresolved issues not us
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
