Wow bttrfly that sounds crazy - but somehow not unexpected that an OW on the other side of the country could be deceived about the real status of your marriage. I hope this allows you to finally let go fully of your ex and realize you deserve so much more. ((((hug))))
I don't want to hijack Card's thread, but I will say this: it makes me re-think standing. I know that is not a DB friendly response, but in my case, I do believe that mental illness is involved. I can only see this in hindsight, which is even more frightening. How do you tell? How do you tell if your beloved spouse is in MLC, or is mentally ill, or a sociopathic narcissist?
Answers I do not have.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
